The Social Media Paradox: Balancing Digital Life and Mental Wellbeing

The Social Media Paradox: Balancing Digital Life and Mental Wellbeing


In our hyperconnected society, many people connect with others via social feeds. Once an innocent way to interact with friends, social media sites have morphed into complex spaces that influence our thinking and behaviour and, for our purposes, our mental health. As demonstrated in the documentary "The Social Dilemma: The Impacts of Social Media on Mental Health," social media is a service with an environment competing for your attention.

Understanding the Interaction between Social Media and Mental Health


Researchers, mental health practitioners, and social media users are increasingly concerned about the interaction between our digital lives and mental health. Recently, many social media and mental health books have been published, pointing out the merits and potential harm of our online behaviour.

In her seminal book on social media and mental health, Alone Together, Dr. Sherry Turkle ponders how perpetual connectivity can ultimately result in isolation, asking, "We are connected, but are we actually connecting?"

The Algorithm Effect


Every social media platform employs complicated algorithms designed to maximise user engagement, sometimes to the detriment of our mental well-being. These algorithms feed us content that elicits intense emotional responses.  When combined with nuances like time of daytrending topics, and the influence of influencers, these algorithms create feedback loops that are hard to break out of.

The Algorithm Effect



The algorithms dont care about your mental health; they care about keeping your eyes glued to the screen. — social media and mental health quotes by tech ethicist Tristan Harris.

Causes and Effects of Social Media on Mental Health

Research has pinpointed multiple ways social media impacts our mental health:

Comparison Culture

Social comparison is the most documented cause-and-effect of social media that influences mental health. We scroll through curated highlights of other people's lives and compare our behind-the-scenes life to their highlight reel.

Validation Seeking

When we 'like,' 'comment,' or 'share' something, it creates reward systems that can develop unhealthy behaviours seeking validation. The potential impact on self-worth is considerable in a world where we can quantify external validation.

FOMO (Fear of Missing Out)

The continual anxiety that people are having experiences that you are not has a biological impact of anxiety and insecurity.

How Social Media Affects Body Image

How Social Media Affects Body Image

When it comes to how social media affects mental health and body image, the emergence of platforms like Instagram, which can promote often unattainable beauty standards, has only increased the relevance of this inquiry. Studies have found links between social media use and:

  • Increased body dissatisfaction Higher rates of disordered eating
  • Increased interest in cosmetic procedures Lower self-esteem
  • Lower self-esteem relating to appearance
A 2021 report in the Journal of Adolescent Health identified adolescents using social media for over 3 hours a day with statistically significantly higher rates of body image concerns than their peers who used social media less frequently.

Finding Balance: Protecting Your Mental Health in the Digital Age


Learning how to balance social media and mental health is important in today's society. Here are evidence-based techniques to help you maintain a healthy relationship with social media:

1. Mindful engagement

Be mindful of how and when you log on. Ask yourself, What do I hope to get out of this login session?

2. Mindful following

Your feed is yours! Follow accounts that inspire, inform, or bring you joy and deactivate the ones that make you compare, anxious, or negative.


1. Mindful engagement Be mindful of how and when you are logging on. Ask yourself: “What do I hope to get out of this login session?” 2. Mindful following You feed is yours! Follow accounts that inspire, inform, or bring you joy and deactivate the ones that make you comparison, anxious, or negative.

3. Set Digital Boundaries

Set up tech-free zones (like bedrooms) and tech-free times (like during meals or the hour before bed) to allow your mind space to decompress.

4. Use Tracking Tools

Many phones today have a screen time tracking feature that shows you how much time you spend on various social platforms. Knowledge is power.

5. Take more breaks from social media

Taking breaks allows you to reset your relationship with social media and reconnect to your offline life, whether for a few hours, a day, or even a week.

Recommended Resources

If you're interested in deepening your understanding of this complex relationship, consider these insightful books about social media and mental health:

1. Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World by Cal Newport
This book is an accessible guide to developing a healthier relationship with technology by being deliberate about how you use it.

2. Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked by Adam Alter discusses how product designers create addictive experiences and how we can regain control of those experiences.

3. Ten Arguments for Deleting Your Social Media Accounts Right Now by Jaron Lanier A Silicon Valley pioneer presents some relevant considerations for reconsidering our relationship with social media platforms.

4. How to Break Up with Your Phone by Catherine Price, including practical techniques for creating better tech habits without sacrificing your entire digital life.


Finding Professional Support

Consult a professional if you feel that social media is affecting your mental health. Digital wellness coaches and therapists specialising in technology issues can offer one-on-one recommendations.


A Balanced Approach



Conclusion: A Balanced Approach

The relationship between social media and mental health is not necessarily bad. Social media can bring people together, create a connection, and form geographic and temporal relationships. The important part is to have a mindful consumption practice and manage how we allow these tools into our lives. 


While we are all learning our way through this new space, knowing that you have more control than the algorithms would like you to think can be reassuring. When you realize how overtime social media functions, how it is designed to feed your likes and feed your behavior patterns, and take small, actionable steps to create boundaries around which social media exists and participates in your life, the effects can be tremendous in terms of benefits from social media combined with a redefined landscape of potential harm.


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Frequently Asked Questions

First, are we actually dealing with social media addiction?


Although social media addiction is not yet classified in the DSM-5, many mental health professionals do acknowledge problematic social media use that resembles the characteristics of behavioural addiction. Some suggest that with the move toward a greater understanding of all behavioural addictions, social media addiction should be included in such manuals.   
 

Second, when is it a reasonable age for children to start using social media?


Most social media companies have an official policy that new accounts require users to be at least 13 years old. However, that is widely disregarded by parents and children alike. According to child psychologists, it is developmentally appropriate for children to start using formal social media in their mid-teens. Parents should do their due diligence to determine their child's emotional maturity and ability to grasp privacy issues. 

Can social media usage lead to depression?


Research has found a bi-directional relationship: excessive/unhealthy social media use can lead to depressive symptoms. Still, on the negative side, people already experiencing depressive symptoms are more likely to use social media in ways that reinforce negative thought processes. It's a complex relationship, and there is likely variation between individuals.


How much "social media usage" is too much?


Research suggests that negative mental health effects emerge when social media usage exceeds 2-3 hours per day. However, the quality of users' engagement with social media and other content is as much of a factor as quantity. Active, purposeful engagement with social media has less negative impact than passive scrolling.


What are "dark patterns" related to social media?


Dark patterns are user interface designs that encourage users to behave in a way they would not normally choose to, whether that is infinite scrolling that eliminates natural stopping points or notifications made by developers to elicit a dopamine release to keep the user engaged.


Will quitting social media help with mental health?


Many studies and individual accounts demonstrate significant improvements in mood, ability to concentrate, and life satisfaction after individuals decrease or eliminate social media use. However, there is a wide range in results, and for some individuals, eliminating social media entirely leads to issues of disconnection from their social world.


How do I know if my mental health is being adversely impacted by social media?

Some warning signs include feeling anxious or depressed after using social media platforms, comparing yourself unfavourably to others on social media, obsessively checking social media feeds, feeling irritable when unable to check social media, or using social media or worrying about your social media use instead of sleeping, working, or spending time in person with other important people in your life.


Is there any good to social media for mental health?

Yes! Social media can provide a sense of community and support for individuals with mental health concerns, a connection to others that reduces isolation for people who live in rural areas or cannot travel to connect with local mental health resources, access to mental health resources, and a way people can express themselves that they could not otherwise do so outside of social media.

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